She Is Sick
I haven't blogged for quite a while, my mother was sick and I had to take care of her. Her blood pressure was shooting up. I was afraid she sufffered another stroke, GOD forbid. I cannot understand why her blood pressure was going up. Its very hard to diagnose if my hands are tied and I cannot practice my profession here. I am just relying on my instincts.
Good thing she is starting to improve now. Her BP is more or less stable and normal now. She also had cough and colds but without fever, probably from the very cold weather last week. I hope its not Pneumonia. I worry a lot when my mother is sick... it takes out the "doctor" in me. I really cannot help it.
Good thing she is starting to improve now. Her BP is more or less stable and normal now. She also had cough and colds but without fever, probably from the very cold weather last week. I hope its not Pneumonia. I worry a lot when my mother is sick... it takes out the "doctor" in me. I really cannot help it.
posted by Abner M. Hornedo, M.D. at 2:20 PM
16 Comments:
Tell me about it. I took care of my sister who had an advance breast. Yung tatay ko independent when it comes to his medication and personal stuff. Pareho silang naka wheelchair noon, pero hindi naman nakapako yung tatay ko sa wheelchair, he can still can walk. I dont mess around with their medical management. First of all, they dont recommend it. Basta I follow the dosages given to them. Looking back, ang pinaka time consuming for me was to help go around the city. Pero noong panahon na yon, hindi ko naman naiisip yun. I dont want them to have depression kung nasa bahay lang lagi. Doon ko nalaman na handicapped accessible ang San Francisco. We just commute by train and bus. Pati mga department stores at restaurants ok lang ang mga naka wheelchair. I did a survey first, sa downtown kung puwede ang wheelchair. Pati mga sinehan ok din. You have no idea how extensive ang ginawa ko just to make sure everything is ok for us to go around the city. Ewan ko ba ang utak ng mga tao, kahit anong kabutihan ang gawin, pinagiisipan ka pa ng masama. Sabi ba naman ng ate ko, "Tutal mahilig ka namang mag-Macy (department store), bakit hindi ka mag-credit card". Bago pa lang sko sa america noon. Sa isip isip ko. " Eh kung ikaw ang gumagastos sa bahay, eh di sana may credit card na ako",at hindi ako mahilig sa Macy's, yung ate kong may kanser ang gustong mag-shopping. After my sister passed away, wala na akong pakealam sa Macy's. Yung tatay ko noon, we go to Veteran's hospital na libreng hatid sundo pa ng hospital. Noon wala akong reklamo, pero ngayon na realize ko , itong mga hinayupak ng mga kapatid ko,sa akin BINAGSAK lahat ng responsibility. Taking care of your family members is a THANKLESS JOB. Kahit nga ang tatay ko ang sabi pinaka proud daw sya doon sa isa kong sister na mayaman. Ako itong nagaalaga sa kanila parang bale wale. BUHAY NGA NAMAN. Sabi ko nga doon sa previous posts ko, I have no regrets taking care of the. But I'm telling you, people will look at you on how much you earn. I repeat.....PEOPLE WILL LOOOK AT YOU ON HOW MUCH YOU EARN....Kahit na relatives mo pa,and tinitingnan yung suweldo mo, hindi yung magandang ginagawa mo. And people have SHORT MEMORY,right now , they dont look at the good things I did. Ang importantelang talaga sa kanila yung present.Ang sabi ko nga noon. palagay ko ang PURPOSE ko sa mundong ito, gumawa na lang ng mabuti, yung next generation na lang ang mage-enjoy ng FRUITS NG LABOR KO.
pare,
dito sa aussie land, it's unethical to talk about the salary, how much to people earn. ang mahalaga dito ay nakakaraos ka ng pagkain, rent sa bahay and other bills. para sa akin, money is not the sole yardstick of success. that's very materialistic. ano ba ang gagawin mo sa pera? ipapampapalambot sa kabaong pag natepok na???
i salute you... mahirap ang ginawa mo... i should know kasi ginagawa ko hanggang ngayon ito dude.
mabuhay ka!
abner
I'm talking about situations that you have to declare your salary. Year after year na lang we are refinancing our home. At yung mga relatives mo mismo who are expecting more from you, kahit na alam nila mismo ang situation they are looking down at you, and they dont have to say it. I dont even care about other people.The problem I had in taking care of sick relatives is that you get emotionally involved. Pati financial resources mo bale wala sa iyo. The thing is , I should have taken care of myself. Dapat noon pa , Kinumpleto ko na yung mga books ko. It was not an excuse for me not to study. Taking care of relatives and working is not an excuse for me not to study. Eh di ba't yan din ang ginagawa natin sa hospital, taking care of sick people and doing more than 24 hours of work every duty. The MOST PARALYZING thing for me yung pera.To tell you the truth, masama ang loob ko sa mga kapatid ko. Mabagsik pa naman ako when it comes to studying. What a waste of time. Pinagbigyan ko na nga sila tapos as it turned out ako pa yung financially stable. Ang sabi pa sa akin hindi raw ako katulad nila na nasa medical field na stable job. Stable job eh utusan ako sa hospital ! MILYA MILYA NA SIGURO ANG NAABOT KO KUNG PANTAY PANTAY LANG ANG RESPONSIBILIDAD NAMIN.
My unsolicited advice to you, take care of your mother, sure get emotionally involved. But when it comes to financial problems/gatos even if small, dapat pantay pantay lang. The time spent in taking care of your mom, PANTAY PANTAY din dapat among your relatives. START SAVING MONEY FOR YOUR STUDIES.
doggie, okay lang ilabas mo ang sama ng loob mo dito.
if you are a catholic, i suggest i-offer mo na lang yung sama ng loob mo at injustice sa nangyari. alam naman ng Diyos yung intention mo ay mabuti. nakadeposit na yan sa bangko sa langit. huwag ka na magalit, baka mawala pa yung nakadeposit na sa taas.
naintindihan ko yung situation mo doggie, kasi yan rin nararanasan ko sa aking pamilya dahil kami mag-asawa ang pinakawalang kaya sa respective families namin. kaya kami rin ang naaapi. ang masasabi ko lang, ipagdasal, tanggapin ng tahimik at ang grasya mapapasa atin.
kasali ka na ba sa pinoymd exodus mailing list, kung hindi pa, sali ka. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/pinoyMD_options_for_exodus/
ingat lang.
doc abner, isasali natin sa dasal ang mother mo.
@ anonymous:
salamat po! kumusta ka na dyan sa NZ?
@ doogie:
pare right now, wala akong naiaambag sa mga kapatid ko financially to support my parents, kakarating ko lang dito as a permanent resident and up to now, wala pa akong trabaho kasi i had to accomplish muna everything to establish identity here (driver's license, medicare, bank account, etc..)kaya ang sole participation ko ay to take care of my parents, pero i don't have any regrets kasi ok lang naman sa akin ang ginagawa ko and besides kami na lang nung bunso ang walang asawa, kaya nasa amin ang bulk ng pag aalaga... may mga pamilya na kasi yung tatlo at syempre iba na ang priorities nila. kaya nga nasabi ko sa yo, i'm a victim of circumstances kasi nga hindi ako nakapag asawa agad.
i ok, sabi nga ni anonymous, nakadeposit na yan sa langit... mas maganda yun diba?
LOL. Well, I dont think about deposit sa langit. Basta kayod na lang ng kayod and do whatever is good for the family. Actually you're not the first person I know na may same situation na katulad ko noon. And yes, galit pa rin ako sa mga kapatid ko. LOL.
Sa lahat na siguro ng mga ka klase natin. Ikaw na siguro ang kahulihulihang tao na iisipin mong hindi pa kasal. MAY KOTSE, ASTIG,I'm not saying na maraming babae, because I dont know, pero malakas ang dating mo. Eh alam mo naman kapag estudyante na may kotse. Just a few days ago nasa yahoo headline si Scott Baio, at never been married.Legendary yata dito sa america si Scott Baio at nasa headline, ang alam ko ang mga naging girldriend niya hindi lang ordinary women but sex symbols, like Pamela Anderson at Heather Locklear.
For anonymous, thanks for the comment, And yes I'm catholic. And I'm passionate about religion, lalo na a few years ago. I use to debate in atheists vs christian chat room sa yahoo. The problem is, they changed the format. Dati you can go to the same chat room over and over again, for example CHRISTIAN CHAT ROOM 4. Now they send you randomly in christian chat room.....for example.....CHRISTIAN CHAT ROOM 3....CHRISTIAN CHAT ROOM 12....CHRISTIAN CHAT ROOM 7...etc.
Off topic pero the stocks went down 226.4 sa Dow Jones. The worst I've seen so far. Triple digit ! Hindi mo talaga masabi yang stocks. I've been monitoring these past few months. I took mine off a few weeks ago and I put it on bonds. Too much headache. Noong lumabas ang iPhone, puro gains, at na-maintain for a few weeks and so. The last Friday bagsak, then Monday, at ngayon nga. Maraming asar ngayon , I'm sure. For investors like me, a couple of thousands ang nawala kung nagkataon. Doon na nasa middle ground, thousands of dollars ang nawala. Doon sa big time investors, MILLIONS OF DOLLARS.HORRIBLE DAY.
@ doogie:
kayod lang ng kayod pare! pare di ako ang astig... hehehe, si egoy (arnie ferriol) remeber him??? successful na din sya dya sa tate... sa california ata. try to email the dude afj514@yahoo.com
Never ko naman naging kainuman yang egoy na yan. Alam ko hindi naman ako mayabang noong nagaaral pa tayo. Eto namang sina Awi Dalidig at Alex Cristobal , wala atang alam sa internet. Nah I'm just kidding. When I was new here, nakuha ko yung email nina Alex at ni Jesse ( barkada namin from another school). Ang problema webtv pa ang gamit ko noon. Eh nag-close account na ako sa webtv.
OFF TOPIC. Grabe pala 'tong internet. Dati ala sa search ang pangalan ko. Ngayon yung una kong reply dito sa blog mo can be seen sa search. Lekwat, kinuwento ko pa yung buhay ko dito sa america !!!!! Grrrrrr. Hoy kayong mga fans ko ! ANDIDITO ako sa blog ni Abner Hornedo. Dapat nag email na lang ako pagdating sa personal matters. Sabagay mga kwarenta na tayo, ano pa ba ang dapat kong itago.
SIGURADO akong pinagpe-pyestahan ng mga salot sa lipunan from the "other" school 'tong kuwento kong ito. Eto ako, hanggang ngayon struggling pa din. MAGKITA KITA na lang tayo sa JUDGEMENT DAY !
doogie,
relax man... hold your horses. i'm sure kung sino man yung mga "fans" at "enemies" mo from PIYO will not care to bother you anymore. relax dude!
sikat na tayo! hahahaha
abner
pare i already deleted the whole post! ok na ba???
abner
Thank you man. Muntik na talaga akong mag- VIOLENT REACTION. LOL. Marami na akong beses na BAN sa mga chat rooms and message boards.
Sabi ko, naku pag nagkataon, maba-ban ako sa blog ni Abner.
Bakit nawala sa friendster itong blog mo. Its faster kung sa search engine ng friendster ako pupunta. Mas maraming hits. Kasi its different window when I click your blog. Kung yahoo or google, it would be slower, I have to use the BACK BUTTON to do it. And its much slower.
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